If it hurts you to help someone,
      but you do it anyways...
because there's no way to negotiate
(or re-nagotiate as the case may be)
& tell them that it doesn't feel good
    you are being codependant.
Whether you can't negotiate
(or re-nagotiate as the case may be)
because of:
            emotional manipulations,
            drug &/or alchohol abuse
            violent threats or deeds
            abuse on any level
            &/or our own fears & blocks
it's still codependant behaviors &
is begging us for an upgrade to it.